Re: Suicide as a Natural Right. (was: Re: In defense of Friendliness)

From: Michael Roy Ames (
Date: Sun Oct 20 2002 - 13:35:44 MDT


You wrote:

> Soft is good.

Not necessarily. Soft may be more pleasant to read, but it may not provide
precise communication, and it may waste time.

> Our perceptions do not reflect reality
> %100. Our language is imprecise. We have emotions
> which we did not choose to have; we do not react only
> to the content of a message, rather to both the
> content and the style. Therefore there is a point to
> softening styles of speech, as well as styles of
> cognition.

Agreed. And the point is: if there is need to ingratiate yourself with your
readers, then one must write in a style that keeps them happy. But pandering to
the readers is not what SL4 is about AFAIK.

> One shouldn't judge posters at all, one should just
> strive try to clarify views and improve understanding.
> Such as "if you meant what you seem to have meant, X,"
> (statement X in as clear terms as Responder can
> manage), " then this seems to me incorrect, for the
> following reasons...".

There is an argument to be made for utility in judging posters as well as posts.
I shy away from neither. Judging a poster is not something to be avoided, any
more than judging a poster's ideas is to be avoided. Admittedly extrapolating a
viewpoint about a complete person from just a few posts is going to be very
error prone, but making the attempt to do so often produces useful information.
A larger 'pipe' is of course desirable when making assessments about someone.
Nothing beats 'face-to-face' communication... yet!

Far be it from me to disuade anyone from 'playing nice'. Just don't let it
interfere with making an effective argument, in an approriate setting (like this
is). I have witnessed too many occations when an intelligent person with a good
idea will keep thier mouth shut because they don't want to give offense. Such a

On a personal note: it *is* nice talking with you Yedidya :)

Michael Roy Ames
Ottawa, Canada.

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